Bereavement Blog

This blog is dedicated to my son Daniel who passed on July 1, 2008 at 22 years of age. It's about living with loss and connecting up with Dan through my spirit, learning how to communicate through any means that is open to me.  

Dictation #5 Advice From Little One’s Spirit TeamUntitled Post

posted Oct 21, 2020, 11:14 AM by Sheri Perl

Dictation #5  Advice From Little One’s Spirit Team


Hello, friends in the realm of the physical reality. We bring greetings and blessings with the utmost sincerity, for we truly care for each of you and we know how challenging these times are to be living through. This is precisely why we feel the desire to come through and offer some encouragement because we are human too and we understand far more than you might assume. 


Those of us in the realm of spirit are acutely aware of the events that are taking place in the lives of our loved ones and so don’t ever feel completely alone, for each of you, at the very least, have a child-in-spirit watching over you and your families, but most of you have many loves on this side who keep their watchful eye. That doesn’t mean that we can make your lives run smoothly because we don’t have the power to control events, but at least you know that if you should make the crossing, (which one day you will do) that you will be greeted and loved and brought into a realm of much greater ease. Compared to life in physical reality, life in the spiritual realms is more like a vacation. 


Dear friends, as you have shown to us such a warm welcome displayed by your supportive comments, we have convinced Little One to let us be in touch with all of you through this outlet as well as posting these dictations on her website. We have said to her that she isn’t being given this information for herself alone but so those who also want to listen to our advice as well. She has agreed to let us call the shots here and to print what we ask her to and so we think that the best things we can do for you is to teach the same things that we’ve been teaching to Little One now that she is willing to listen and it’s really simple concept, easier to understand than to do.  


We have been telling Little One that when she really trusts that she is not left totally on her own and that she can take a second to take a breath and that before she runs into a rabbit hole of some kind, give her worries to us and ask for help. That mini second that you can either jump into a reaction and possibly fumble what you’re trying to do or give yourself a momentary “time out” to take in a long deep breath and just give up your anxiety for a mili-second and breathe light into you. 


You see, there’s meditation and there’s meditation in action and most of you, even those of you who actually sit in meditation as a practice, jump into action or have a big reaction the second you are alarmed or in a hurry. Little One has been a rusher all her life, even if there was no reason to rush, she would rush through things as if she might not be able to complete her task unless she moved with rapid speed, which inevitably lead to making mistakes, stupid mistakes.  Little One recalls hearing a scientist/speaker named Bruce Lipton speak at a conference. He explained that when humans panic, their blood rushes to their extremities in order to fulfill the fight and flight response. He said, “So, you know what that means people? It means you get stupider!” 


We would like you to observe yourselves as you go about your daily activities. How do you respond to pressures as they arise? Are you likely to get yourself all riled up going through mental machinations trying to comb your mind for answers because we can assure you better success if you stop running right to your mental capacities

before taking a second out to relax, breathe in and ask for help. We observe that when Little One takes this advice that things just work out better, faster and with less wear and tear on her consciousness. Still, old habits die hard but the more she sees the results of following this advice the more she thinks it’s a little like magic. 


So that’s our two cents for today. As I said earlier, this is not hard to understand, but you will find it hard to do at times, probably the times when you could use this practice the most.


But all we can do is to point you in what we feel is a positive direction. and 


Bless you all,

With love from Little One’s Spirit Team.




Dictation Number Four---A Word or Two from Little One’s Spirit Team October 10, 2020

posted Oct 10, 2020, 8:31 AM by Sheri Perl   [ updated Oct 12, 2020, 12:27 PM ]

Dictation #4---A Word or Two from Little One’s Spirit Team October 10, 2020


This is The Spirit Team of Sheri Perl and we are here to continue with our messages for those of you who welcome a few words from this side of the veil of vibrational differences. Based on the fact that you all have children on this side we would give you some information about those children and what they are able to do in this realm of spiritual reality.


First of all, most of them attend some kind of schooling situation. It can be in any subject that they want to learn about. From the history of the human race to playing the guitar, there are no rules as to what they must learn. It’s completely the choice of the individual spirit and that goes over very well with the children who were very free at heart to begin with. Some of them really resisted the confines of physical reality and felt immediate relief when they were given such freedom of choice.

For those who suffered from physical illness, well you can imagine the liberation from a body that encased them in pain of any kind. It’s like they died and went to Heaven which is exactly what they did and this goes for all of them. Not one of your children suffers or burns in hell which doesn’t exist in those terms that have been presented to you. Yes, there are higher and lower realms that are inhabited with others who share common personality traits but your children were mischievous at the worst. They were all really good people in their hearts and in their souls and that is the only barometer that makes any difference over here on this side. Mistakes are the way we humans learn so we don’t judge anyone by the mistakes they made along the way, only by what is in their heart. That doesn’t mean that they don’t work on themselves or even commit to some restitution for something that may still need to work out, but by enlarge they are moving forward and living full lives on this side, with the knowledge that every one of them will be reunited with their families that are currently living in physical reality.


Some of your children passed totally unexpectedly from some freak accident that can’t be explained or may have had their lives taken by someone of bad intent, but they too have made their peace with the mysterious nature of existence. So many of you are asking for reasons and answers that we just don’t have. Life has a momentum all of its own and not everything can be understood. You go through it trying to make sense of it all. Accept the element of mystery. It’s a lot easier that way.

But rest reassured by us who know that this afterlife is both real and a future destination for all of you, that the best is yet to come and that there is nothing to fear in death.


Blessings from the Spirit Team with love from our realm to yours

Dictation Number Three---Words from Little One's Spirit Team---October 4, 2020

posted Oct 4, 2020, 12:36 PM by Sheri Perl   [ updated Oct 12, 2020, 12:29 PM ]

Hello My friends in the realm of the physical reality. We send blessings in all ways that are needed to help each of you to cope with the strain of living with the pandemic. We hope that you know that avoiding wearing a mask is asking for trouble and you would all do best to not get this virus if you can help it. Sheri has worked with us to help a member of The Prayer Registry and her husband survive a terrible time with COVID 19 but then, shortly after they returned home, their daughter fell ill and wasn’t able overcome the virus. She recently joined her brother in spirit and leaves behind 2 sons and her broken hearted mother and father. 


Friends, we told Little One very early on, in February in fact that she had better hunker down and to not even dream that her friends scheduled to visit her in early April would be coming to NYC. Well, as long as Little One doesn’t stop us, we will tell you what we see as far as we are able to see, but please know, we don’t know everything, we are not in control of everything, we are not God any more than you are God, but we are light beings and we can see some things. When we think it’s warranted, we pass information onto Little One. Now, with her permission we will pass on our feelings to you. 


BEWARE of COVID 19. Don’t think it’s over and don’t be foolish. Stay mindful when you go out to protect yourself by not loitering close to others, by keeping your face covered, by not touching your face at all when you’re out and by washing your hands thoroughly when you do return home. This virus is very contagious and it is a virus, not a hoax.


That said we are free to trust that you will heed our advice and we can give you the good news, which is, we have no pandemics here in spirit. We know that you can’t even begin to imagine the splendor of an existence that doesn’t present you with a whole bunch challenges to be addressed on a constant basis. It’s a realm with a greater sense of connection to all others and so we don’t feel cut off or alone ever, something you may feel from time to time. It’s a product of being in a body that seems so separate that you cannot know and feel the human connection that is unbelievably comforting. It’s something that you have to experience to understand but it’s just outside of this moment and it is something worth looking forward to rather than fearing. There is so much beauty in this realm with many things that we can’t even describe to a person who is still blinded by the physical brain which breaks everything down to what its limits of perception are. So, just trust us on this, the best is yet to come. 


As bad as things may seem at this time in physical reality, this isn’t the entire picture of the existence of human beings and we are here to say that you will go on as we have gone on and there is much more sanity and comfort when you reach this realm, so breathe easy and don’t fear death, whatever you do, don’t fear death. Crossing over is a lot easier than driving in rush hour traffic. (We stole that line from a movie that Little One watches from time to time.)


We’ve taken up enough of Little One’s time so we will say goodbye for now and we’ll return at the right time when Sheri says. “yes, I’ll take dictation.” 

Love to all,

Little One’s Spirit Team 

Dictation Number Two---for lack a better title at this time---September 27, 2020

posted Sep 27, 2020, 12:48 PM by Sheri Perl   [ updated Oct 12, 2020, 12:29 PM ]

Dictation Number Two---for lack a better title at this time


Good day to all of our friends in the realm of the physical reality. We have convinced Ms. Perl that we want to use her facility of clairaudience to build a relationship with those readers who want to hear what we have to say. We have grown tired of this hit or miss way that Little One (this is our name for Ms. Perl) has shared these brief transmissions. Almost like putting her toes in the water and then pulling them out for fear of criticism which befalls all mediums, but especially with EVP there is a lot of mistrust and Sheri shys away from being criticized. It really upsets her and so she posts something and then doesn’t for a long time because she isn’t completely comfortable with this kind of exposure. Fortunately, we believe that we have convinced her that this is gift she was given to her in order to help others and that if she doesn’t use it, then she has wasted something that we consider rare and precious and so she has agreed to type up whatever she hears through this line with the trust that our only intention is to help and that this will not put her in a critical light. If it should, we say, “Does it really matter all that much?” What matters most is you knowing your experience is valid and that you  follow your heart and let the pieces fall where they will.


One of the things we want to share with you is something that we talk to Little One about on a constant basis and it is this: Don’t fret about those things over which you have no control! There isn’t one good reason to spend your days in worry about things that you cannot effect. Little One can get herself all embroiled in an upset about something that she isn’t able to turn around and so our little lady isn’t doing herself any good and it wastes a good deal of energy. We don’t see any value in worrying even when there is something you can do, but much of people’s distress is over things that they cannot change and it drags them into a negative state of mind.


When there is something you can do to improve a situation, by all means do what you can, reach out and be proactive, but in those areas that are beyond your reach, send your prayers and your light to those who need it, but don’t go down the rabbit hole and make their misery your own. You can only help to uphold your world with love.  


These are tough times to be living in physical reality. We know that there is so much confusion and fear that our hearts go out to all of you. Still, what matters very much is the attitude in which you hold everything that is presented in physical reality. What can you do to bring in some light to yourself and those around you? 


Let’s start with a few simple instructions:

Breathe in deeply and draw light and healing energy into you

Exhale fully and send that light all throughout your body


(Repeat first step a few times)


Breath in deeply and draw the light and healing energy into you

Exhale fully and send that light outward from you to anywhere you wish to see it go




Please practice this at least once or twice a day for a few minutes each time . If nothing more, it will bring the light into you. We finally have gotten Little One to bring this light in on a regular basis and it has brought her back into better footing and trust me when I say that she needs this as much as all of you do, so take this and learn to rely on the light to give you a bounce in your gate and a smile on your lips.


This is Sheri Perl’s Spirit Team saying we love you guys and we are going to do our best to be regular visitors through this electronic line that Little One can hear. 


With warmness and fondness we send you light and love from the realm of the Spiritual Reality.

Daily Dictation September 25, 2020

posted Sep 25, 2020, 10:23 AM by Sheri Perl   [ updated Oct 12, 2020, 12:30 PM ]

Daily Dictation September 25, 2020


This is a message from Sheri Perl’s Spirit Team and we will not give identifying names because that makes you question whether we are who we say we are so, let us dispense with titles and positions and past life reputations and just take the messages for what they are, messages from those in Spirit who wish to be a positive influence on those who are still living in the realm of the physical reality.


For today I want simply to say that the universe is full of things that you cannot see or hear without some kind of instruments that can pick up on those vibrations and bring them through but on your own, you’re pretty much blind to this world that interpenetrates your own. We know that you would be so much happier if you could understand that within everything you do see exists a spiritual counterpart that you do not see. However, it is there and just knowing this is real that will lead to a much better physical life.  When you not just intellectually but emotionally understand and accept this as truth, then you will understand that the best is yet to come and you will not fear death as a thing that takes you away from this home on earth because your home in the realm of the spiritual reality will be awaiting your arrival and it will more welcoming than any home you have ever known. This isn’t fantasy, it’s the truth and if only you could see us, we dwell in such beauty without the wars and pandemics and the crazy incidents that you hear about every day in the news. It’s an act of faith to keep your head in a good place but if you could trust that there is more to life than you can see and that in the end you will be more than sustained, then you could live and breathe a bit lot easier. 


So, the purpose of this morning’s dictation is to set the premise that knowledge of the afterlife is vital to life in the realm of the physical reality and we will be presenting a great deal of stories that are evidential of the soul’s continued existence after the body has been vacated. 


The Spirit Team of Ms. Sheri Perl

The Truth of Life After Death As Expressed by Michael Roll

posted Feb 11, 2017, 8:17 PM by Sheri Perl   [ updated Feb 11, 2017, 8:34 PM ]

I will tell you about my experience with a fully developed materialisation medium back in 1983. Can you begin to imagine my thoughts on my way back from Leicester to Bristol after being physically reunited with my “dead” father?


I thought that all I would have to do would be to send my report to a newspaper and that in a very short time millions would know that losing a loved one was only a temporary tragedy. How wrong I was. I just did not realise back then just how badly the truth upsets very powerful people at the top with a great deal to lose from the scientific case for survival after death.


For example, the whole of the religious establishments throughout the world. They have a lucrative monopoly on the vast life after death industry. They all know very well that nobody is going to pump money at them when millions of people find out that it is a scientific fact that every person survives the death of their physical body without any help from priests. This is why the pope said to Professor Stephen Hawking, “I don’t care what you do in science just as long as you never encroach on my subject, life after death.”


Then there is the fact that orthodox scientific teaching across the world, across every discipline, is locked into Einstein’s hopelessly outdated 1915 General Theory of Relativity – when you are dead, you’re dead. However, one genuine scientist (Latin for seeker after knowledge) did take action on my report that even the Spiritualists blocked for many years before they eventually published. Spiritualism is an officially recognised one-god religion.


The head of astronomy at Glasgow University, Professor Archie Roy, came and spent a whole day with me in Bristol. Please refer to his letters to me on my website, Correspondence Section dated 1983. He was about to go in with the infra-red cameras and capture on film six recently deceased people proving that they are still very much alive. A psychologist on his team sabotaged Professor Roy’s experiments in order to keep the old-boy network intact – money flowing in the “right” direction.


Maybe the time is right to send this to newspapers again. It sure beats having to ‘rest in peace’ in the ground having to wait for the second coming of the Christian God – Judgement Day – before anything can happen.


Michael Roll


In the 1930’s my mother came across Arthur Findlay’s book ‘On The Edge Of The Etheric’ linking the study of survival after death with natural and normal forces in the universe. Subatomic physics, forces in nature that are just out of range of our five physical senses. This changed mother’s whole outlook on life, and as she named me after Arthur Findlay in 1938, it also set me up for the rest of my life after I had made a careful study of the subject. As a young man Arthur Findlay had taken the fear of death away from me.


As I am now coming towards the end of my stay on Earth I look upon the death of my physical body as a tremendous adventure. I know that I will be immediately reunited with all the people that I have loved on Earth during the time that I have been locked into a physical space suit. Not to mention a whole stack of cats.


In 1983 I took part in experiments with a materialisation medium. This type of medium does not just give evidence of survival, they are able to give the crushing scientific proof, because at one of these experiments all five senses are working – sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell. Every time this medium gave a demonstration six recently deceased people materialised. They were just as solid and as natural as when they were on Earth. Full reports of what I witnessed can be found on my website, The Campaign For Philosophical Freedom:


Every time this medium, Rita Goold from Leicester, gave a demonstration, the former Scottish medium Helen Duncan materialised and acted as a sort of etheric master of ceremonies. I am not being gullible here because just before I went to Leicester the journalist Alan Cleaver had carried out a first class scientific experiment. He had reunited the “dead” Helen Duncan with her daughter on Earth, Gena Brealey. Reference ‘The Cleaver Report’ on my website.


At my first visit to Leicester Arthur Findlay materialised and gave me a hug. He confirmed that he was working with me all the time. I told him that I knew this must be true because I was not clever enough to write what I do. I left school at 16 only just able to read and write. Please note my father materialised at this experiment. There is no way he would let me down. Therefore it is a safe bet that the materialised Arthur Findlay was genuine.


The next person to materialise was Russell Byrne who died of cancer at the age of nine. He has been physically reunited with his parents Gwen and Alf on something like 100 repeatable experiments. Russell said to me that as I was coming back next week with my mother, was there anybody over here that I would like him to get. I said that I would love to meet my father again who passed over in 1967. Russell said that if my dad is over there he will try and “dig him out.”


Sure enough the following week I was reunited with my father in 1983, still very much alive. He was also reunited with my mother. This is no longer all too good to be true because vital discoveries in physics have been deliberately blocked from coming to the attention of people throughout the world in order to keep the old-boy network intact.


Thanks to the Internet people can now Google the proof that Sir William Crookes carried out repeatable experiments under laboratory conditions proving that we all have a soul that separates from the dead physical body. These are his 1874 experiments with the materialisation medium Florence Cook. He published the results of his experiments in ‘The Quarterly Journal of Science’. Crookes was later made the president of The Royal Society and awarded ‘The Order of Merit’.


In 1933 Sir Oliver Lodge gave a cosmological location for the spiritual part of the universe with his lecture ‘The Mode of Future Existence’. This now fits in with what scientists refer to as the missing 95% of the universe. We now know that this is the spiritual part of the universe that Sir William Crookes discovered in 1874.


The mysterious force of gravity is no longer a mystery. Gravity is the force of nature  that is coming from the spiritual part of the universe. It is keeping all the oceans from flying off into space. It also makes suns, planets and moons round. Just like we make a snowball round by applying outside pressure.


Michael Findlay Roll


Untitled Post

posted May 17, 2015, 5:34 AM by Sheri Perl

Sunday May 17, 2015----


There is a world of the flesh, and there is the Spirit world. When the flesh is gone the Spirit forever remains. Their voices speak to those who know how to listen.

---Wolf Clan Song---from Native American Tradition


When spirit comes around us to speak to us, how do we listen? How do we hear that which is not physical?


This is the question that we should all be asking ourselves because if there is a way for us to hear what our children have to say, we would like to know it. The problem is that it is impossible hear that which is not audible. Common sense spirituality would say that we had better find another way.


So what are our options? We read that in the Near Death Experiences, people have conversations with spirit beings without words. We are told that complete ideas tare received telepathically, and that even though no words are spoken the imparted message is very clear. 


I doubt that there is a person alive who hasn’t received both inspiration and direction from spirit. We each can remember incidents where we literally “knew” something, felt it intrinsically, but we had no idea how. How many times have you felt a strong emotion regarding a future event but ignored it, only to kick yourself later on as you thought “I knew I should have stayed away!”


Where does that “knowing” come from and why do we not realize its source?


We have been taught from an early age that the things that are real are physical and that feelings are intangible and therefore not real, not of substance. Cars are real, the body is real, metal is real. We see those things that we can touch and that hold their shape, as real and all else as insubstantial. 


Alas, my friends, I believe we’ve got it backwards. Everything physical will perish, nothing can be held on to and only that which is spirit endures: spirit endures, love endures, memory endures---all those things that are not physical, that cannot be held, yes, all those things that we consider insubstantial in physical terms.


And so, in our quest to connect-up with our children-in-spirit, it becomes imperative that we begin to switch our affiliation from the things of the earth, to the things of the spirit. It is time that we begin to shift our attachment from things that are physical to the things that we feel, and the things that we dream.


Many of you have heard me say this before. We are all spirit. Our children are discarnate spirits and we are spirit incarnate but we are all spirit. Our spirit is still focused in our physical body and our children are free of their physical bodies, but we are all spirit and that is the common denominator.  We know we can’t find our children in physical reality and so the only remaining option we have is to find them in the spirit, through that common denominator and that means learning how spirit hears.


It’s almost as if we are learning braille or some new system of attaining information but essentially it means opening yourself to a new way of listening, which is not  through your ears!


For a first step I suggest forming a new image of yourself in which spirit and it’s intrinsic nature is apparent to you. You begin to realize that spirit runs throughout your body, keeping it charged so-to-speak, with that divine spark of spirit that connects you to all other forms of spirit because in spirit there is no separation. We are each, for now, cordoned off in bodies, giving us the illusion of separateness, but it is an illusion.


And so, for the first step to open up your connection to spirit is to identity yourself as the spirit being that you are and to honor the fact that what looks out at the world through your eyes is what you are, and that those eyes that you look through are a part of a temporary lodging and not your permanent destination. Begin to identify with the consciousness that exists independent of your body, for that consciousness is what you are, what you have always been and what you will be when you make the crossing.


It is not in our best interest to identify solely with physical reality when one or more of our children are in-spirit. Of course we need to interact with our physical lives and give attention to those who are here, however, what’s to prevent us from putting a little time aside everyday to cultivate our awareness of spirit?


I love this quote from an ancient Greek text: “I am a child of earth and of starry heaven, but my real race is of heaven.”  I love to toss it around in my mind because  it wakes me up to the realization that there is a bigger picture than what we see in a physical incarnation alone. When I really allow this truth to sink in, I am filled with hope and inspiration. Alas, I am reminded that there is a bigger picture, that there is more to this than one physical life and that my child and I are a part of a greater reality in which nothing is ever lost, love least of all.


And so, I ask you for this week to identify with what you love, what you feel, and what you cannot see. Take a few minutes everyday to feel the energy that courses through your veins and know that although you cannot see it, it is what you are    

My Response to a Bereaved Mom

posted Jul 16, 2013, 9:51 AM by Sheri Perl

And yes you are right, in many ways, connecting-up is all that we have, but do not underestimate the power of connecting-up in spirit! You can come to a point where you feel that your child is walking beside you wherever you go.  


Unfortunately we have spent the bulk of our lives exploring and knowing the world only through the five physical senses, which are relatively useless to us now in our search for connection.  Until we fine-tune our own ear for spirit, we often do walk around feeling that they are nowhere near us, but I assure you, that is erroneous! 


I often say that the only reason we are capable of burying or cremating our children is because we know intrinsically, once the spirit has left the body,that our loved one is not there! You could be standing next to the coffin and the body is right there next to you and you look at it and you say, “She’s gone!"  What’s gone?  The body is right there!


But what is gone is the spirit, the essence, the energy that once looked out at you from behind those eyes, but that energy is not gone. On the contrary it is very very present. So the trick is for us to learn to know how to feel, sense, and experience that energy! 


It’s kind of like learning a new way of seeing, a new kind of language. Sometimes I think of it as The Braille System because when it comes to Spirit, we are somewhat blind. But we can and we do learn. 


Start by getting a journal so that you can begin to keep records of things that pop in and out of your consciousness. Start paying more attention to what you feel and what you think and what you daydream about. To see physical reality you must look out through your eyes into the exterior world. To experience spiritual reality you have to look inward into your mental world where feelings and images come. At the very least, our loved ones influence our thoughts. You can think of it as going fishing in the ocean of your imagination because that’s the portal through which information can come. 


Think about this: We have all experienced thinking of someone who then rings our phone only three seconds later. Did that person send you a mental heads-up first and how did you pick up in it?  You don’t know how, but we do this all the time And that is because on the nonphysical level the thought existed before the call was made, and on a nonphysical level you received it, however by the time it makes it through to your conscious mind, it feels like nothing more than imagination and so you write it off. Understand that imagination is the portal through which information from a Spirit level is interpreted. 


We can all do this and we do it all the time. It’s never going to fulfill the desire to have your child here physically, but you can develop a real sense of communication and connectedness and when you consider that we are here and they are there, I think that’s pretty great!



A Message to The Prayer Team from Bereaved Mom and Prayer Team Member —-Nancy Ikeler

posted Jul 16, 2013, 9:42 AM by Sheri Perl   [ updated Jul 16, 2013, 9:49 AM ]

Good morning all! I know I have been quiet in the past months but not that my heart isn’t sending love to each of you and your sweet children. This is my cue from ‘my’ Danny to share as well. Our boys are stepping us up Sheri!! 


My Danny began coming thru a friend of a friend. I admit I was skeptical at first but the info was spot on. Then he just came thru the friend. At first my heart was envious that she was feeling and hearing my beloved son all the time and enjoying a relationship with him. She had never met him in life and only knew his spirit energy which she described to me often. She is young and very beautiful and like a daughter to me. She is now in classes for using her channeling abilities. 


I realized that some of the things she would tell me about Danny I was aware of. Such as him trying to get me to go to bed when I was staying up too late. I found myself talking to him more and asking his advice more. I guess I was just acting as if he was here which was odd since he didn’t live with us when he passed and hadn’t in many years. But here is what I want to share with everyone. 


Danny had my friend make a “project" for me. She said he had her go to the store and told her exactly what to pick out to use. She came for a visit recently and gave me this amazing gift. It’s a scrapbook called “Danny’s notes for Mama Nancy". And in this book are things he’s told her he wants me to know but I wasn’t listening well enough. Yes I’m crying as I’m writing this. So as if this wasn’t enough, on the last night of her visit, she plugged her cell phone in on the nightstand. The next morning there were 2 receipts laying on the nightstand. They are both dated 2005!! His last time home was July 2005. One receipt is for gas and the other is for food. One even has his name where he swiped his bank card. We have had many many guest use that room since then and have been in it ourselves to clean and NEVER saw these receipts out in plain view on that nightstand!! I now remind myself every time I miss him that he is here with me all the time and wants me to know it and stay in communication with him. 


Sheri I will take pictures of the book and receipts and share them. My love to everyone and from my heart to yours always. Our ‘children’ are as close as our breath and love us and need us to love them with open happy hearts like we always did. Grief closes our hearts and is hard on them as well. This is the biggest challenge as parents who are walking this path. 


My email was recently hacked so I am unable to send this to the entire group. Perhaps you can pass this on to the group. 


Thank you Sheri!!! Thank you ALL! Heaven is real and real close! 

The Letter---By Kimberly Wencl

posted Jun 17, 2012, 1:21 PM by Sheri Perl

It was August 30, 2006 and there it was.  The article on fatal off-campus house fires was on the front page of that day’s edition of USA TODAY.  I had been so pleased to receive a call, some three weeks earlier, from a reporter working on the story.   They had done extensive research on all the fatal off-campus house fires across the country since 2000, and the article would run just in time for college students moving into off-campus housing for the upcoming school year.


It was everyone’s hope that this article would keep other college kids from making the mistakes of, not only my daughter Liz, but of the 61 other college kids who had lost their lives due to fire in their off-campus homes.  Prevention was key and I was glad to play a small part in doing whatever I could to keep other families from experiencing the devastating loss of a vibrant young adult.


When I found out the article was going to print, I excitedly emailed all of my friends and family to tell them about it and that Liz’s picture would be included.


I stopped at the store on my way to work that morning and bought three copies of the paper.  I was so excited!  I couldn’t wait to get to my desk so I could read that article.   But, once I did, it made me so sad.  The senselessness of Liz’s death hit me again in such a powerful way, and it felt like September 20, 2003 all over again.  I guess I should have expected that kind of reaction, but it had taken me by surprise and I was having a very difficult time dealing with all of the raw, painful emotions that once again bubbled up and grabbed me. 


I was also very mad at myself.  How naïve could you be, I thought to myself?  How could you possibly think that this article would make you happy?

Suddenly, I wished it had never been published and I threw the papers on the back credenza of my office and tried hard to put it out of my mind.  But I couldn’t, because all day long I had a steady stream of co-workers stopping at my desk to see the article, and it was all I could do to keep my composure.  


I was having a sad, difficult day.  I hadn’t had one of “those” days for quite some time and I just figured I was due.  I’d get through it, I told myself, because tomorrow will always be better.  It was something I had dealt with before in the three years since her passing, and it always worked.  You had to feel the pain before it would leave I had learned.


I focused on my job and tried hard to put the article out of my mind.  I work with International customers at my company.  Because of the time difference, email is the accepted means of communication.  I had taken this position just three weeks after Liz’s death and it had been the perfect job for me.  The stress level was low; I could come in, answer the emails I received, and go home.  I thanked God often for giving me such a wonderful job at just the right time.


I continued to work through my emails.  Suddenly a familiar email address popped up.  It was Liz’s high school French teacher.  Jan had been Liz’s favorite teacher, and we had kept in touch after her death.   I had shared my news about the USA TODAY article with her, and I assumed that was what her email to me was about.


Much to my surprise it wasn’t about the article at all.  Kim, she said, you will just treasure this.  I was in my classroom yesterday, cleaning out my files, getting ready for a new school year.  A lone file folder fell on the floor.  I reached down and picked it up and on the outside I read  “Liz Wencl Essay.”  I opened it up and discovered an assignment I had given out over four years ago.


The assignment was to write a letter to one of your parents, in French, telling them what they represent in your life.  Kim, this is a letter Liz wrote to you!

Now, I don’t speak French, so Jan translated it for me.  That letter was a parent’s dream.  In it Liz told me how much she loved and missed me in so many different ways.  And, amazingly, even though the letter was written when she was in high school, it made complete sense for life after September 20, 2003.


Here is the English translation of the letter:


Assignment:  Write a letter to your Mother or Father telling them what they represent in your life.


Dear Mom,


I know that you love me.  You show me each day that it is true.  Don’t think you are a bad mother.  It isn’t true!  When I look at you I realize how much I am loved.


When you are feeling bad, don’t forget --- I truly love you.  I would like to be a better daughter.  We argue sometimes and that makes me sad.  I feel bad and unhappy if you cry.


I remember when I was little and you would hug me and say, “I love you so much, Lizzie, sit here with me for just a little while.  Those times were so special for me and you made me so happy.  I felt like nothing could ever hurt me.  I use to wish those moments would never end.  To be cuddled up next to you like that today would be like a dream come true.


Mom, I feel sad when you feel sad.  And, when you are happy, I am happy!  You are my mother and I would never choose anyone else.  Without you, I would never be who I am.


I love you with all my heart.





Suddenly what had been a very difficult day became a completely amazing day, and I was once again emailing all of my friends and family to share this wonderful letter with them.


Jan brought the folder and the letter to my house that night.  As she put it in my hands, she said to me, “You have got to know this was no accident.”  I said, “Oh Jan, believe me I do know that.”  She went on to tell me that she remembered telling Liz what a beautiful letter it was, and how she had encouraged Liz to share it with me.  She even remembered what Liz’s comment had been,  “I will when the time is right.”


Receiving that letter was no coincidence.  I believe with all my heart that my daughter is still with me and she knew I was having a difficult day.  She reached out to let me know just how much she loves and misses me, just as I love and miss her.


The letter is now framed, with the French version on one side, a picture of Liz in the middle, and the English translation on the other, and it hangs in our living room.   It is a constant reminder of the power of our love.  That letter is visual proof for me that Liz reached out and touched me on a day when I needed it most. 


Now, I am sure, I will have more sad days in the years to come.  But when I do, all I have to do is read her letter and I once again feel the strong bond of love that we will always share.  It is a bond that can never be broken, not even by death.


Just as God’s love for his children never changes, the love that my daughter and I share never changes.  It will live for all eternity.




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